Dealing with personal problems
We all experience personal challenges or issues in our lives. We can deal with these times by talking to friends or family, or trying to deal with things ourselves.
There are times, however, when issues are too much for us to manage on our own or cannot be resolved by support from our friends or family. At such times, seeking support and strategies from a professional such as a counsellor can be helpful.
What is counselling?
A counsellor is a trained, objective professional with whom you can build a healing and trusting relationship. They are trained to offer different types of assistance; most frequently talk-based styles of therapy.
Counselling is a process of talking about and working through your personal problems with a counsellor. The counsellor helps you to address your problems in a positive way by helping you to clarify the issues, explore options, develop strategies and increase self-awareness. For some people, just the process of telling their story to a counsellor, and being listened to, is helpful.
A trained counsellor is someone trained to offer a talk-based therapy. There are many types of talk-based therapy. A counsellor may work in partnership with a medical doctor or other health professionals at times to give comprehensive and integrated care.
Counselling provides confidential support. This means that everything you discuss with the counsellor is private, between you and the counsellor. The exception is when a counsellor has a duty of care to report something that threatens your wellbeing or the wellbeing of others. This legal requirement will be explained to you in your first counselling session.
There are many different types of counselling and approaches that counsellors use will vary.
Common reasons people seek counselling
Anyone who is struggling with a personal concern can seek counselling. No issue is too big or too small to ask for support. Common issues that people seek counselling for include:
- grief and loss
- communication and relationships issues
- work and career issues
- stress, anxiety and depression
- life transitions such as the birth of a new baby, separation, divorce or the death of a family member or friend
- parenting
- addiction
- abuse
- trauma
- self-esteem difficulties
- exploring gender identity and/or sexuality.
Other types of talk-based therapy
Psychotherapy also uses talk-based therapy to treat clients. There can be a lot of overlap between counselling and psychotherapy, depending on the needs of the person.
A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who has extra training specialising in mental health. A psychiatrist may offer talk-based therapy and can prescribe mood-altering medications to help manage the symptoms of mental illnesses such as severe depression or anxiety. A counsellor is not a medical doctor and cannot prescribe medication of any kind.
Professional qualifications of a counsellor
Do not assume that all counsellors are professionally qualified. There is no law in Australia that requires a person who provides a counselling service to have either qualifications or experience. This means that people without training or skills can call themselves counsellors or psychotherapists.
A trained counsellor has usually spent 3 or more years studying counselling at university, often at postgraduate level, or has an equivalent level of training in another accredited higher education institution.
There are 2 peak bodies that provide national standards for psychotherapists or counsellors in Australia – the Australian Counselling Association (ACA) and the Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA).
It is important that you find a counsellor with the appropriate training and experience who suits you and your needs, and whom you feel comfortable with.
Questions to ask when choosing a counsellor
When choosing a counsellor, it is a good idea to find out the following:
- what approach the counsellor will take
- whether they are accredited by a professional body
- how many sessions clients of the counsellor typically attend
- what the counsellor’s main fields of interest and experience are
- proof of their specialist training
- how long they have been working as a counsellor
- an estimate of their fees. Some counsellors (for example, those who work in universities or community health centres) may be free, or may charge very low fees. Others may charge anywhere from $40 to $150 (or more) per hour. Keep in mind that the price may have no bearing on the quality of service.
Not all counsellors have the same approach and you may need to try more than one counsellor to find one that best suits your needs.
Is counselling covered by Medicare?
Some counsellors are covered under a Medicare rebate and you may get your session covered under Medicare or pay a small gap fee. To be entitled to a Medicare rebate you must get a mental health care plan from your doctor. This means your doctor will assess, through a questionnaire and knowledge of you, whether you would benefit from mental health support.
A mental health care plans provides you with up to 20 sessions of counselling per year with a Medicare rebate.
Medicare does not provide rebates for all counsellors. You need to ask the individual counsellor. You may be eligible for a partial rebate on your private health insurance, depending on your policy.
The first counselling session
Your first session will help you to decide whether this counsellor is the right one for you. Questions to ask yourself include:
- Do I feel comfortable?
- Am I able to talk freely about deeply personal thoughts and emotions?
- Is the counsellor paying attention to me?
- Do I feel they understand and respect me?
- Has the counsellor discussed a plan with me about how we will manage my issues or concerns?
If you decide that the counsellor isn’t right for you, don’t go back. You are under no obligation to continue seeing a counsellor if you aren’t comfortable with them.
Number of counselling sessions
It is reasonable to ask the counsellor at the end of the first session for an estimate of how many sessions they think you will need. However, remember that this is only an estimate.
Some problems can be successfully resolved in a few sessions. In other cases, talking about the particular problem with the counsellor may bring up deeper, unresolved issues that need further exploration.
Where to get help
- Your GP (doctor)
- A counsellor
- Your local community health centre
- Your school or university
- Your workplace human resources team
- Religious organisations
- Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
- Lifeline Tel. 13 11 14 (24 hours, 7 days)
- Beyond Blue Tel. 1300 224 636
- Australia Counselling Directory
- Australian Counselling Association Tel. 1300 784 333
- Mental Health Victoria Tel. (03) 9519 7000
- Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA) Tel. (03) 9486 3077
